I agree. I was a social worker for 50 years, and I was also a victim of domestic violence 36 years ago. My education, background as an SW, and personal experience with a sister in an abusive marriage helped me to know what I needed to do to escape my situation as quickly as possible. Even so, I was nearly killed at the hands of my husband, which resulted in my children and I being relocated across the country into a protection program, where we lived in hiding with aliases for the next 18 years until the last of my children were grown. And in this safe environment I was able to rebuild what had been lost into a life that was even better than the one that had been destroyed.
I’d known DJT for years. So, when he was nominated and elected president, I was extremely appalled. Of course I knew immediately that we were embarking on a very dangerous relationship as a country with him, and throughout his first presidency it became clear that I, and this country, were indeed in an abusive relationship with him. I was just as relieved when he was voted out in 2020 as I was back when I was able to finally escape my own abusive relationship and rebuild my life, as Biden set out to rebuild the life of our country.
But then, the country made a fatal mistake that many victims of abuse make. They allowed DJT back into the home; they voted him back into office. And, of course, the abuse escalated and has become far more dangerous than before.
Our country IS in an abusive relationship with DJT. But the ability to escape it is compounded by the fact it would take the the entirety of the victims, this whole country as a collective, to decide enough is enough and be courageous enough to do something to get him removed…. So we can move on in safety and perhaps rebuild what has been destroyed into a life even better than what was before.
As a psychotherapist who treats trauma I am seeing such dysfunction in our society caused by the narcissistic sociopathic POTUS. It is evil! And the damage done by being “in” this kind of relationship is devastating! It will take courage, perseverence and love to heal all this damage!
Agree 100% about the abuse of power, gaslighting and trauma bonding by MAGA.
“In the Trump administration, the Democratic Party leadership has taken on the role of facilitator.”
This is something that needs to be brought to light more. We need to recognize and support leaders who truly represent the people and are not just focused on holding on to their own “power” in this dysfunctional government.
In my work with abused people I was astonished and admiring of those who had relationships and parented children free of abuse…determined to break the cycles…deserving of being acclaimed as heroic.
"Extinction Level Event Headed Straight for Earth"
Our Psychological and Political Pandemic DR. BANDY X. LEE
🔸️Mental pathology in a president is a public matter. The more severe the mental pathology the less one will recognize that one is even ill.
🔸️Every other job that deals with life or death has a mental fitness evaluation as a requirement, even before one takes the position.
🔸️Without mental fitness evaluations, the public needs to know the danger of certified madness in politics. When dangerous mental pathologies are allowed to spread like a pandemic, an Extinction Level Event is headed straight for Earth. The U.S. could be a shining example of how to stop dangerous mental pathologies before they worm their way into politics but it is now left with "emergency cleanup on aisle madness'.
I've been writing and arguing about the roots of violence laying in cruelty experienced by the perpetrators (and their fears often in the shadows, buried) --how terrorists have a terrified kid inside of them, totally abandoned ---and often poo-pooed, so am always appreciative of hearing the same knowing from experts like Lee. THANK YOU
Thank you for another offering, right on the mark. My own understanding for decades has been that the roots of violence lay in great fear within the perpetrator, often buried, from his/her own abuse, pain. That terrorists have a terrified, abandoned 'inner kid' inside. I learned well, recovering from injury to my sexual-femme psyche, and that of scores of clients, primarily men, some women, along with decades of research and study. German psychiatrist/author Alice Miller helped me much, examining the childhoods of the most hated villains through history. Learning that Hitler was beaten by his father up to age 16 --drew out my compassion for us all... I use both metta and tonglen meditations to shift the 'hatred' I feel for DJT, into compassion for his inner child --and by default, my own, and all other persons. And this fuels my Vision for finding roles to play to 'resist' the horrid takeover of our nation -- and others, by terrified terrorizers.
A new column on Alice Miller and Selma Fraiberg, and Fritz Redl and Rubin Blank. Edna Jane Hunterand how Molly Brown became involved in youth work. Jane Adams and her trip to England. Robert Owen and Jacob Riis. Please folks read and learn and write Ali g with Dr. Lee. I dint think she knows the social work history abd much I didn’t know though my mother also had a graduate degree in Sicial Work. Certain humans many times those of other cultures abd groups abd females were forgotten deliberately suppressed.
Yes. We are in an abusive relationship. Some members of Congress identify with the aggressor and are trying to be like him, mean and cruel and un-empathic. The others who keep voting to support him are his abused wives and children. Some stay quiet out of fear and others because they cannot yet acknowledge the abuse to themselves.
It seems that cruelty is the point to everything he does. And yet at least 40% of 300,000,000+ Americans support it. In Germany of the 1930’s the population suffered the same Stockholm syndrome until America fought to wake them up. Who do we have? No one.
There is no doubt that Trump is insane. He is not erudite and has no in-depth knowledge of anything. He very often contradicts himself in the same sentence. He is incapable of complex or structured thinking. He was a complete failure in business; he went bust three or four times and had to be bailed out by the Rothschilds each time. His main "negotiating tactic" is threatening, which appears to be an American feature. Currently, there are 28595 US sanctions in force in respect of Russia. People who operate in this manner are clearly on secondment from a lunatic asylum. Trump also has admitted to never having read a book and it shows. To crown it all he is a Zionist puppet and the consequences of that relationship are yet to emerge in full.
I did not know that. Bankrupting a casino - normally a source of easy and endless income - takes some doing, i.e. you have to be particularly useless. In any case, your information proves my point. Many thanks for that.
Yes, casinos are tightly regulated by governments, so you have to be particularly incompetent to bankrupt one.
Mind you, Trump is currently bankrupting the USA, which may soon be unable to finance its $36trillion debts, so he hasn't learned any lessons, it seems.
Most countries are NOT kissing Trump's ass because, as China said, we are not giving in to bullying. Trump will be shunned, which is the correct way to treat malignant narcissists, who think compromise is weakness and an invitation to double down on persecution. It is Trump who will have to back down.
What does this say about those who will not stand up to #Felon47? What abuses did they suffer as children? What potential abuses are the hoping to avoid by obeying in advance?
I agree. I was a social worker for 50 years, and I was also a victim of domestic violence 36 years ago. My education, background as an SW, and personal experience with a sister in an abusive marriage helped me to know what I needed to do to escape my situation as quickly as possible. Even so, I was nearly killed at the hands of my husband, which resulted in my children and I being relocated across the country into a protection program, where we lived in hiding with aliases for the next 18 years until the last of my children were grown. And in this safe environment I was able to rebuild what had been lost into a life that was even better than the one that had been destroyed.
I’d known DJT for years. So, when he was nominated and elected president, I was extremely appalled. Of course I knew immediately that we were embarking on a very dangerous relationship as a country with him, and throughout his first presidency it became clear that I, and this country, were indeed in an abusive relationship with him. I was just as relieved when he was voted out in 2020 as I was back when I was able to finally escape my own abusive relationship and rebuild my life, as Biden set out to rebuild the life of our country.
But then, the country made a fatal mistake that many victims of abuse make. They allowed DJT back into the home; they voted him back into office. And, of course, the abuse escalated and has become far more dangerous than before.
Our country IS in an abusive relationship with DJT. But the ability to escape it is compounded by the fact it would take the the entirety of the victims, this whole country as a collective, to decide enough is enough and be courageous enough to do something to get him removed…. So we can move on in safety and perhaps rebuild what has been destroyed into a life even better than what was before.
As a psychotherapist who treats trauma I am seeing such dysfunction in our society caused by the narcissistic sociopathic POTUS. It is evil! And the damage done by being “in” this kind of relationship is devastating! It will take courage, perseverence and love to heal all this damage!
Agree 100% about the abuse of power, gaslighting and trauma bonding by MAGA.
I’ve always believed the majority of maga followers are victims of abuse and he is familiar to them.
“In the Trump administration, the Democratic Party leadership has taken on the role of facilitator.”
This is something that needs to be brought to light more. We need to recognize and support leaders who truly represent the people and are not just focused on holding on to their own “power” in this dysfunctional government.
I believe we are in an abusive relationship, and I also think that the majority of MAGA followers are victims of abuse and can't leave their abuser.
In my work with abused people I was astonished and admiring of those who had relationships and parented children free of abuse…determined to break the cycles…deserving of being acclaimed as heroic.
"Extinction Level Event Headed Straight for Earth"
Our Psychological and Political Pandemic DR. BANDY X. LEE
🔸️Mental pathology in a president is a public matter. The more severe the mental pathology the less one will recognize that one is even ill.
🔸️Every other job that deals with life or death has a mental fitness evaluation as a requirement, even before one takes the position.
🔸️Without mental fitness evaluations, the public needs to know the danger of certified madness in politics. When dangerous mental pathologies are allowed to spread like a pandemic, an Extinction Level Event is headed straight for Earth. The U.S. could be a shining example of how to stop dangerous mental pathologies before they worm their way into politics but it is now left with "emergency cleanup on aisle madness'.
https://open.substack.com/pub/bandyxlee/p/our-psychological-and-political-pandemic?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android&r=280c3q
I've been writing and arguing about the roots of violence laying in cruelty experienced by the perpetrators (and their fears often in the shadows, buried) --how terrorists have a terrified kid inside of them, totally abandoned ---and often poo-pooed, so am always appreciative of hearing the same knowing from experts like Lee. THANK YOU
Thank you for another offering, right on the mark. My own understanding for decades has been that the roots of violence lay in great fear within the perpetrator, often buried, from his/her own abuse, pain. That terrorists have a terrified, abandoned 'inner kid' inside. I learned well, recovering from injury to my sexual-femme psyche, and that of scores of clients, primarily men, some women, along with decades of research and study. German psychiatrist/author Alice Miller helped me much, examining the childhoods of the most hated villains through history. Learning that Hitler was beaten by his father up to age 16 --drew out my compassion for us all... I use both metta and tonglen meditations to shift the 'hatred' I feel for DJT, into compassion for his inner child --and by default, my own, and all other persons. And this fuels my Vision for finding roles to play to 'resist' the horrid takeover of our nation -- and others, by terrified terrorizers.
A new column on Alice Miller and Selma Fraiberg, and Fritz Redl and Rubin Blank. Edna Jane Hunterand how Molly Brown became involved in youth work. Jane Adams and her trip to England. Robert Owen and Jacob Riis. Please folks read and learn and write Ali g with Dr. Lee. I dint think she knows the social work history abd much I didn’t know though my mother also had a graduate degree in Sicial Work. Certain humans many times those of other cultures abd groups abd females were forgotten deliberately suppressed.
Genuinely patriotic apostles of democracy say to the Musk-Trump fascist regime: "We are all Harvard -- Veritas forever!"
Yes. We are in an abusive relationship. Some members of Congress identify with the aggressor and are trying to be like him, mean and cruel and un-empathic. The others who keep voting to support him are his abused wives and children. Some stay quiet out of fear and others because they cannot yet acknowledge the abuse to themselves.
It seems that cruelty is the point to everything he does. And yet at least 40% of 300,000,000+ Americans support it. In Germany of the 1930’s the population suffered the same Stockholm syndrome until America fought to wake them up. Who do we have? No one.
America did not fight in WWII to wake up Germans. We were told what was happening and didn't give a shit until we were bombed by the Japanese.
There is no doubt that Trump is insane. He is not erudite and has no in-depth knowledge of anything. He very often contradicts himself in the same sentence. He is incapable of complex or structured thinking. He was a complete failure in business; he went bust three or four times and had to be bailed out by the Rothschilds each time. His main "negotiating tactic" is threatening, which appears to be an American feature. Currently, there are 28595 US sanctions in force in respect of Russia. People who operate in this manner are clearly on secondment from a lunatic asylum. Trump also has admitted to never having read a book and it shows. To crown it all he is a Zionist puppet and the consequences of that relationship are yet to emerge in full.
Bankrupt 6 times. Even bankrupted a casino!
I did not know that. Bankrupting a casino - normally a source of easy and endless income - takes some doing, i.e. you have to be particularly useless. In any case, your information proves my point. Many thanks for that.
Yes, casinos are tightly regulated by governments, so you have to be particularly incompetent to bankrupt one.
Mind you, Trump is currently bankrupting the USA, which may soon be unable to finance its $36trillion debts, so he hasn't learned any lessons, it seems.
Most countries are NOT kissing Trump's ass because, as China said, we are not giving in to bullying. Trump will be shunned, which is the correct way to treat malignant narcissists, who think compromise is weakness and an invitation to double down on persecution. It is Trump who will have to back down.
What does this say about those who will not stand up to #Felon47? What abuses did they suffer as children? What potential abuses are the hoping to avoid by obeying in advance?
So exactly right! Listen to her.